Loneliness

Loneliness is not something we choose. It is not something we crave. It is a dark and tender place we sometimes find ourselves in at the most unexpected moments of life. A place that feels cold. Heavy. Quiet in ways that echo too loudly.

It can feel impossible to carry the burdens we bear when there is no one beside us to help hold them.

In those moments, what we long for is simple—conversation. Connection. The kind of emotional safety that allows us to exhale. The kind of bonding that lets us be fully ourselves without fear of judgment. There is something sacred about genuine conversation. It reaches into the deepest parts of our loneliness. It reminds us we are seen. It can bring light to the worst of days and lift our spirits just enough to keep going.

Sometimes it’s the smallest things—a shared laugh, a thoughtful message, a few minutes of feeling understood. Little bursts of sunshine. Brief reminders that we are alive and that someone notices.

But when that connection fades… when the conversation stops… when what felt like your last lifeline slips away, the grief can take you by surprise.

You find yourself staring into the stillness of the day. Sitting in the car longer than necessary, gathering the strength to step back into normal life. Lying awake at night, alone with thoughts that replay what once was. And in those quiet hours, you feel grief—not only for the person or connection you lost, but for who you were in that season… and for what you hoped it might become.

It is grief for what was.
Grief for what could have been.
Grief for the version of you that felt less alone.

And yet, even there—in the quiet car, in the sleepless night, in the ache you can’t quite name—Scripture whispers something steady and true:

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18

Close. Not distant.
Near. Not absent.

When loneliness convinces you that you are unseen, God draws nearer still. When your spirit feels crushed under the weight of loss, He does not turn away from your grief—He moves toward it.

And in those desperate, fragile moments, a question rises in the silence:

How far are you willing to go for connection?
How much of yourself are you willing to trade just to not feel alone?

Loneliness can tempt us to reach for anything that promises relief. But not every connection is healthy. Not every conversation is safe. Not every lifeline leads to life.

Sometimes the bravest thing we can do in our loneliness is pause. To remember that our longing for connection was placed in us by God—not to drive us toward desperation, but toward healthy, life-giving relationships. Toward Him first. Toward people who reflect His heart.

You are not weak for feeling lonely.
You are human.

And even in the quiet, unseen places, you are not abandoned. He is close.