Boundaries

Every wife must set boundaries.

PTSD introduces unique and heavy challenges into a marriage—challenges that can leave a woman feeling alone, neglected, unheard, unseen, unappreciated, and, at times, deeply unloved. But at no point should this become your new normal. Nor should it be allowed to define your marriage or your identity.

Scripture is clear about God’s design for marriage. Ephesians 5 paints a picture of love that is sacrificial, honoring, and protective—a love in which a husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the Church. PTSD does not exempt a marriage from God’s design, nor does it excuse behavior that wounds, diminishes, or devalues.

Your worth is not determined by your spouse’s capacity or condition. Your worth comes from the Father. When the weight feels unbearable, you must press into Him—seeking His will, His strength, and His truth—to walk this journey and fight these battles with wisdom and courage.

Boundaries are not punishment. They are protection. They define what is acceptable and what is not. And when boundaries are crossed, action must follow. Accountability is necessary. Consistency matters. Boundaries that are not enforced eventually become suggestions.

If we are willing to draw permanent boundary lines against the enemy to keep him out of our homes and hearts, why would we not do the same within our marriages to guard against what seeks to steal, kill, and destroy?

Set boundaries. Keep them. Let them define you—not fear, not guilt, not someone else’s brokenness.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23